The "I-Statement" is a tool we can all use to respectfully stand up for ourselves! I think of this as a basic format that provides your "best-bet" results for difficult conversations. "I-Statements" are much less threatening than "You-Messages", and therefore can help to defuse conflict, while still allowing you to saying what you need to. This takes practice, but can help your child and family communicate significantly better. Many parents choose to post this in a visible location in their homes (refrigerator for example), and model this calmly when they need to discuss something with family members.
“I feel ________________
(name the feeling)
“and I would like ______”
(Say what you would like to happen instead)